The best way to meet new friends is by getting out and about. Take some time to attend community events and look for clubs and groups that gather around common interests.
Then use questions like arrows in your quiver to connect with people you meet. Remember to keep these conversations honest and open.
1. You need to be open
A common interest, a funny joke, or a shared bonding experience can be the basis for a friendship. But it’s the regular interaction and intimacy of communication that keep it going. Friendships are important for our well-being. They reduce mortality rates and improve quality of life, even when other health factors are taken into account.
A great way to get to know someone is by asking them questions. However, it’s important to not bombard them. Aim for a few questions at a time and listen to their answers. If they don’t answer your questions, it may be a sign that they aren’t interested in maintaining the friendship.
Some people have difficulty being open with others because of fear, anxiety, or a lack of self-confidence. They may have trouble discussing sensitive topics, such as feelings of anger or depression. In these cases, a supportive conversation about what’s happening in their lives and the importance of their relationships might be beneficial.
2. You need to be honest
Honesty is one of the most important things you can do in a friendship. It allows your friend to trust you and know that you won’t keep secrets or tell others about their personal life. It also allows them to share their feelings with you and helps you understand them better.
If your friend is honest, they will tell you the truth about everything – including their strengths and weaknesses. They will also be willing to admit when they are wrong and take responsibility for their actions. They will respect your boundaries and avoid invading your personal space or prying into your business. They will also be respectful of your feelings and respond to you kindly but firmly if they feel that you are treating them unfairly.
If your friend isn’t honest, it can be difficult to be close to them. They may try to hide their true feelings or act differently around you. In this case, it’s best to find a new friend.
3. You need to be trustworthy
Having a good number of friends is important to many people. But, the quality of those friendships is also important. People with quality friendships feel a sense of well-being that comes from being connected to others.
A friend who is trustworthy will treat your feelings and vulnerabilities with respect. They will not gossip about you, but rather listen and offer helpful advice. They will be there for you in times of crisis or need.
One way to find trustworthy people is to look for them in places where people gather, such as groups, clubs and faith organizations. If someone stands out to you, approach them with a friendly greeting and introduce yourself. Then, get to know them a bit by asking about their interests and activities. This is how casual friendships often start. Be empathetic and show sincere concern for their circumstances, and pray for them. This is how you will be a compassionate and supportive friend.
4. You need to be available
After age 25, many adult friendships start to decline. It’s important to meet new people in a variety of ways, including joining social or recreational clubs and activities. For example, if you’re an avid athlete or business owner who takes pride in your work and enjoys connecting with like-minded peers, consider joining a local professional association or networking event. Similarly, you can also join groups that are dedicated to your religion or culture and attend meetings with those interested in similar topics.
If you’re feeling uncomfortable about meeting new people, remind yourself that making friends is a process, much like working out. The more you put yourself out there, the more comfortable it will become. And remember that what other people think about you is not your problem (unless it’s harmful to your wellbeing). If you have trouble making or keeping new friends, speak with a therapist who specializes in relationships. They may be able to help you develop strategies to overcome your barriers to making and maintaining relationships.